Frequently Asked Questions
Just the FAQs, ma’am.
Can I bring my dog to the wedding and reception?
Sadly no. Holly Farm does not allow pets of any kind. You may bring dogs to the Friday Night Sunset & S'mores party at Carmel City Beach.
Are babies and kids welcome?
YES! You are welcome to bring your little ones to the ceremony and reception. We will be providing babysitting service during the reception for infants to 12-years olds. Just let us know if you’ll be bringing children so we know how many to expect.
How formal is this shindig?
It is unlikely that we will have a formalized dress-code. We want our guests to be as chic and fabulous as they want to be. Having said that, the ceremony location will be a grassy field and the whole reception will be outside. We’re not saying you can’t wear your gorgeous 5" stiletto heels, just that if you decide that you must, you have been warned!
What will there be to eat?
We don’t want to give too much of the surprise away, but there will be plenty of food for everyone. Vegetarians will certainly be accommodated. Seeing how neither of us like seafood, we can say for sure there won’t be any. Children’s meal will mostly likely be chicken nuggets, macaroni and cheese, or pizza.
Married?! But what about the injustice and inequality in the modern concept of marriage?
We have wrestled with this separately and jointly. And with the recent passage of Prop. H8 we’ve been wrestling with it again. Balanced on one side is our shame and anguish at the prejudice flowing freely and openly, and that “None are free until all are free.” On the other side is the pragmatism that our “boycotting marriage” until it is available to everyone who wanted it makes a statement to nobody. A better solution is to campaign for the inevitable, and to take a little solace in the fact that each time the balance sways further in favor of justice (and the misinformation that they spread this time around just to eek out a slim victory was just staggering!)
Ok, but it is still an outmoded custom from a patriarchal world that viewed women as chattle…
Perhaps. But our marriage is a mutual pronouncement of love, respect, admiration, and even fealty in front of those most important to us: our tribe of misfits and ne'er-do-wells. You’ll have to trust us that we’re up to no good.
Can I bring my dog to the wedding and reception?
Sadly no. Holly Farm does not allow pets of any kind. You may bring dogs to the Friday Night Sunset & S'mores party at Carmel City Beach.
Are babies and kids welcome?
YES! You are welcome to bring your little ones to the ceremony and reception. We will be providing babysitting service during the reception for infants to 12-years olds. Just let us know if you’ll be bringing children so we know how many to expect.
How formal is this shindig?
It is unlikely that we will have a formalized dress-code. We want our guests to be as chic and fabulous as they want to be. Having said that, the ceremony location will be a grassy field and the whole reception will be outside. We’re not saying you can’t wear your gorgeous 5" stiletto heels, just that if you decide that you must, you have been warned!
What will there be to eat?
We don’t want to give too much of the surprise away, but there will be plenty of food for everyone. Vegetarians will certainly be accommodated. Seeing how neither of us like seafood, we can say for sure there won’t be any. Children’s meal will mostly likely be chicken nuggets, macaroni and cheese, or pizza.
Married?! But what about the injustice and inequality in the modern concept of marriage?
We have wrestled with this separately and jointly. And with the recent passage of Prop. H8 we’ve been wrestling with it again. Balanced on one side is our shame and anguish at the prejudice flowing freely and openly, and that “None are free until all are free.” On the other side is the pragmatism that our “boycotting marriage” until it is available to everyone who wanted it makes a statement to nobody. A better solution is to campaign for the inevitable, and to take a little solace in the fact that each time the balance sways further in favor of justice (and the misinformation that they spread this time around just to eek out a slim victory was just staggering!)
Ok, but it is still an outmoded custom from a patriarchal world that viewed women as chattle…
Perhaps. But our marriage is a mutual pronouncement of love, respect, admiration, and even fealty in front of those most important to us: our tribe of misfits and ne'er-do-wells. You’ll have to trust us that we’re up to no good.
